Sometimes we get overwhelmed by the challenges we face in our daily life, be it personal, health, or professional. We react differently to challenges, and when we fail to control the situation, we develop stress. If you allow yourself to wallow in stressful situations, physical, psychological, and health problems may develop. It is, therefore, necessary to be able to manage stress to prevent depression.
Discussed Below are 13 Behavioral Skills of Stress Management
- Quit Overthinking
You may have found yourself overthinking about a problem that you’re going through in one or more instances. Overthinking makes you mentally drained. When you overthink, you tend to be vague and lack a solution.
You must stop overthinking and start acting. Don’t be stagnated in one position because of overthinking.
Remember worrying never solved anything.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others.
So, lately, you’ve been so stressed because your age mates are now far ahead of you. So what if they are? They have children, and you’re not even married? They have good jobs and are getting promotions while you’re still struggling to get a stable source of income?
You should always know that you are unique in your own way, and in this life, everyone has a different and unique pace in this journey of life. Comparing yourself with others will only make you lose focus on your goals. Value your progress no matter how little it may seem and work on improving.
3. Take Personal Responsibility for your Actions
We tend to shift the blame to the other person. If you have been applying for jobs unsuccessfully, take it upon yourself to research what the problem might be. It may be that your CV needs a revamp, or maybe you’ve been handling the interview questions all wrong.
Condemning yourself will eventually take a toll on your mental health. Instead, take the responsibility of developing your soft and technical that are suitable for the job market.
4. Practice having a Positive Mindset and avoid Victim Mindset
Are you the kind of person who always feels targeted when things don’t go your way? Do you find yourself blaming others for your failures at work, school, or even at home? Does failure easily overwhelm you?
If your answer to the above questions is yes, it’s time for you to change your mindset. When you take responsibility for your actions, you will stop acting the victim whenever things go contrary to your expectations. You must begin embracing growth and staying focused and dedicated for a course because it won’t happen overnight. When you wonder how long it will take for your breakthrough to happen, remember to focus on your goal rather than focusing on the setbacks.
5. Live within your Means
Financial instability is a common cause of stress, especially when you live above your means and accumulate debts right, left, and center.
You don’t have to strain your financial muscle to prove a point. Debts will slow down your growth rate, and the payback time will always be stressful and limit your saving and investment plans. When you don’t invest now, your future will also be stressful. Focus on long-term sustainable set goals for an easy life now and in the future.
6. Keep Your Mind Occupied
An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. When you have an issue bothering you try to keep your mind busy as an idle mind allows the devil to play tricks on you.
- Decide to read a book such as Zero to Hero, or Joel Osteen’s Journal, ‘Become a Better you.’ Get your copy of Zero to Hero here
- Tend to your kitchen garden
- Go for a walk or a run
- Listen to music
Keeping your mind occupied gives you ample time to heal, reflect, and be able to handle the situation with a sober mind later on.
7. Work on your Self-Esteem
Most people with low self-esteem tend to be more affected when faced with a problem. Reason being that they are afraid to ask for help because they are scared of being judged. They will blame themselves for anything even when they aren’t at fault.
If you have been having self-esteem issues, work on it. Speak positivity to yourself, embrace your strengths and work on your weaknesses, don’t say it’s impossible when you haven’t tried, speak love where there is self-hate, and start viewing yourself as a great person. By doing so, you will be able to overcome challenges easily.
8. Don’t Keep it to Yourself
Even with high self-esteem, it’s always good to ask for help from someone you feel comfortable sharing. Sometimes we want to solve all of our problems because it’s our responsibility. However, no one is perfect.
Keeping some things to yourself might help, but sometimes you need a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. No matter how strong you believe you are, letting it out relieves you of the burden because a problem shared is a problem half-solved.
9. Keep the Communication Alive
Do you realize that there are times we stress ourselves over a misunderstanding? It is usually the case in relationships. For some reason, you cut the communication with your partner and start assuming things. You continue with the assumptions and allow your brain to play games with you. You start magnifying your imagined problems into mega problems.
If you notice a change in your partner’s behaviors, ask them instead of assuming. You may have thought that they are cheating, but in the real sense, they are going through personal or financial challenges, and that’s why they have been drifting away.
Communication solves problems that shouldn’t be there in the first place.
10. Seek Professional Help
Maybe you feel uncomfortable talking about your problems and struggles with your friends because of prejudice. You can opt for a counsellor. A professional counsellor offers a listening ear and gives workable solutions to the problems you are facing.
If you can’t afford to pay for a counsellor, you may talk to your teacher or religious leader. The first step to overcoming stress is by speaking out about your problems.
11. Join a Support Group
You may be stressed because you have a terminal illness, and you have condemned yourself to die. Remember, you are not the only one. Luckily we are in a digital era. Go to Facebook and search for a group related to your problem. For example, I have come across a support group for Stroke patients and caregivers. I have also come across a group named group named A Safe Place Online where people talk about what they are going through, and members offer encouraging words.
If you have stress because of the nature of work, for example, you are a nurse, and sometimes you work longer shifts and feel like it’s stressing you, search for a Facebook group for Nurses. A support group opens your eyes to the reality of life, and you learn that you are not the only person with that kind of problem. Sometimes you meet others with more problems than yours and realize that you were stressing over nothing that isn’t solvable.
12. Always Choose Happiness
Happiness is a choice that you can make. When you have a situation that is bringing you down, choose to be happy. Solve what you can and ask for assistance when you feel overwhelmed. Remember, none is perfect, and life is too short to be stressed.
13. Cry it out &Vent
Crying is probably the best medicine for a stressed person. Sometimes the sorrow is too much, and we lack the words to express our pain. Never allow your pain to eat you up from inside, cry as you write down what you haven’t achieved and how you intend to achieve it.
PS1: Don’t prolong the crying as it may become a new source of stress.
PS2: If you are a believer, make it a habit to pray, it helps relieve your stress and fastens the healing process.
Now that you have gone through the various ways to overcome stress, it’s upon you to put the points into action. Remember, every person in this world is going through something, only that some are good at handling the situation they are in while others easily break down. You are not alone, and people are ready to help. All you need is to look in the right direction.
Also, if you have more ways to manage stress, feel free to add them in the comment section.